And So It Begins, Again

Looks like we've come full circle yet again. My ex has a new woman in his life, the second one since August when he was arrested for domestic violence with his then-girlfriend. The one immediately following her only lasted about two weeks and this current one seems to be moving along according to schedule. His behavior is right on schedule, too.

See, whenever he's between women he's overly nice to me, polite, tries to make jokes, chats about the kids, and all that. When he's got a woman and she's in his life on a regular basis he turns into a complete shit toward me and that's where we are now. This most recent girlfriend of his is allowing him to stay with her 'for a few days' as of about a week ago. According to my ex, the dude who lives in the apartment above his had a fire last week and, since the apartments are connected, the plumbing and electric in both are messed up so he can't stay in his apartment.

Convenient, right? Now he has an excuse to live with her and her kids and she's buying into it. He also told me the other day that they opened a joint bank account together. Seems he's having problems with his account since all the bogus loan scam bullshit took place and he needed to open a new one. That's his story anyway. My theory is that he overdrew his account again and can't get it back on track. Not my problem and I don't care.

Since he's been 'staying' with her, though, he's gone back to his usual I'm-going-to-show-my-new-woman-what-a-shit-my-ex-wife-is-and-what-a-tough-guy-I-am attitude. As soon as something doesn't go his way he takes it out on me and starts yelling and screaming and sending rude texts so he can convince her that I'm an asshole and he has to put up with my crap. It never fails, it's part of his relationship cycle.

Just last Friday he was being all nice to me and wanting to give me all kinds of information about what's going on with his job search and all that crap, as if I give a shit. As of yesterday he got angry because he never got copies of the court papers from when I applied for sole custody of the kids and supervised visitation for him. He started yelling via text and then called me and started screaming that I never sent him a copy of the papers. It's not my job to take care of him and I told him so; I told him to call the courthouse and ask for the paperwork. He didn't like that and as soon as he called me an asshole I hung up on him so he started texting again.

He was getting belligerent and rude and I could tell he was shitfaced and that his girlfriend was there or he wouldn't have been putting on a show. His texts made no sense whatsoever and he couldn't even answer questions with coherent thoughts. He got angry when I accused him of being drunk and when I asked if sweetie pie was there. Guess what! I don't give a shit. Both were true - I knew it and he knew it. I finally just stopped texting and laughed about the whole thing.

Today he started, yet again, with his bullshit of asking for the names of the kids' teachers and their school ID numbers. He does it with every new girlfriend to try and show girlfriend what a good daddy he is. Yeah, okay. I gave him the names of the teachers but the ID numbers are for the kids to use to pay for lunch. He doesn't need those and I told him so. I got his standard "Yup" in response. Fuck him!

Over the weekend he was asking about Dolly's school concert tonight, saying he wanted to be there, blah, blah, blah. He never showed, not even a text to say he wouldn't make it. He did claim to have a job interview about 4:00, I think, so I figured he'd use that as an excuse not to go to the concert. Not like it really mattered because Dolly didn't want him there anyway.

It's been just about a month since I got the court papers changed and he hasn't tried to schedule one visit with the kids through the program we're using for the supervised visitation. He claims that the girl who works there hasn't returned his calls for two weeks. She called me Sunday and said she's been calling him but he doesn't answer his phone. Her I believe. Another theory of mine is that he's avoiding the visitation and blaming it on the girl at the program not getting back to him. I mean, why would he want to waste gas to drive over an hour just to see his kids for an hour? Any regular father would, not this one. Any excuse to get out of it.

He doesn't like the fact that he has to have the supervised visitation - claims it was my idea and the fact that Children's Division was called on him twice has nothing to do with it, nor does his behavior over the past 12 years. He's not comfortable with supervised visitation and it's not what he wants - so he's going to pout about it rather than doing the right thing. Again - fuck him!

Like I said, we're back to the beginning again and I am really getting tired of it. I have to start documenting shit all over again - I keep all of his texts - and I have to deal with his bullying and abusive attitude. Not that I have to deal with it but I have to spend my time constantly hanging up on him or dismissing him via text. It gets exhausting, it really does. If I could snap my fingers and make it, or him, just go away I would, I don't have that option, though.

I have to just keep moving forward like I always do and wait till this relationship ends just to have it begin again with the next woman in his life. It's a really good thing I have a sense of humor. I spend a lot of time laughing at him; so much time, in fact, that there are days when I feel like the Joker, a wide-ass stupid grin on my face all day because of his stupidity. Then there are days when I'm just mentally exhausted because I know what's coming next and just have to wait for it to come into play. Yesterday, today, and now there will be more tomorrow. I guess I'll just get some sleep and try to forget about him for the night. Tomorrow will bring what it brings and I'll just keep on laughing.

Until next time... peace to all.