A Very Interesting Day, to Say the Least

Wow! A very interesting day for me today that I need to share with someone. Let me preface it for you first. I have a friend's son staying with me. Call him K. He's 24, wasn't happy where he was in NY, doesn't want to live in FL with his family so he asked if he could try living here in MO. Sure, why not. He's a good kid, lots of potential, and a positive role model for my kids. He'll hang with us until he gets on his feet. I did not tell my ex about K being here, it's none of his business.

Tonight Paul came to pick up Zach and Dolly to take them to a school dinner function and while Paul was here chatting with me before he left with the kids K walked into the house, picked up his cell phone and walked back out. Not a word to anyone. He doesn't even want to meet Paul since I told him all I'd been through. That's fine.

Of course Paul asked Zach who K is, how long I've known him, why K is living here and Zach told him the truth. And, of course, Paul asked Zach where K is sleeping and Zach told him the truth again. K is sleeping in Dolly's room since she doesn't use it; she sleeps in my room ever since Paul's rampage over here just before New Year's Eve. I found all this out when Paul dropped the kids back off here at home, and after he'd left. I also laughed at it because Paul is the last one to ask about anyone living in my home after all the women he's had around my kids. He's such a dumbass.

Meanwhile, when Paul and the kids were gone I got some pretty interesting information. I won't say how, just suffice it to say that it's from a reliable source and while I won't say it's all 100% accurate most of it rings true to me. I don't really care about what goes on with Paul and his girlfriend because when they break up it'll all become my problem because of my kids and I don't want to make it my problem now. I was told by a counselor yesterday, though, that even though I don't want to make it my problem I have the right and responsibility to find out if my kids are staying in a safe environment when they're with Paul and D.

So tonight I went through my connections and found out that the two of them got into a physical altercation the other night. He shoved her and she decked him. While I'm happy that she can stand up for herself against him I'm not happy that this could possibly happen when my kids are there. I got a lot more information but this is the part that sticks out in my mind the most; partly because I'm glad Paul had someone give him what he dishes and partly because I'm afraid that next time it could escalate and my kids could potentially be witness to it.

Now I have to call the counselor back tomorrow and tell her what I know and get her advice. She's told me that if I find out things get dangerous for my kids when they're there I have to take legal steps to protect them. That I can do. I get the feeling, though, that she'll tell me there's nothing I can do as long as my kids weren't there. I don't know for sure, though. I guess I'll find out and fill you in when I do know something definite.

My day kinda flipped back and forth from ups to downs. I volunteered at Zach and Dolly's school as I regularly do on Thursdays then came home to all the rest. After all I'd found out from Zach and the questions Paul asked about K, and the information I got from Source about Paul's home life, I got a call from a friend who needed to vent. I don't mind that at all; most of my friends call me to vent because I'm a good listener.

My mind, though, is now mush and needs to relax and process all the stuff I learned about today. The information I got from Source is a lot to take in all at once and the possible repercussions makes it even heavier. I'm not going to dwell on it or stress over it because I won't do that to myself but I'm still nervous about what the counselor might tell me. Until then I'm going to sit and relax  - K and all the kids are in bed so I get some quiet time to myself. Aaahhh...I can feel the pressure lifting a little.

I'll definitely fill you in when I get official word about what, if anything, I need to do from here. Let's hope I don't have to go legal on this because I really hate having to explain everything to the kids. Regardless, it is what it is and it will be what it will be. I have no control over anything right now so I'm going to let it be.

Until next time...peace to all.