This Is My Life

I didn’t intend to blog tonight because I’m really tired. I was up at 4:30 yesterday morning because I had some things to do; and I didn’t go to bed until after 3:00 this morning because I was celebrating the change into the new year and talking to great friends on the phone. I really want to get some sleep right now but I feel I need to say something here first.

This year I intend to live my life on my own terms; and I don’t care if you don’t like it. See, I’m tired of trying to do the right thing simply because it’s expected of me by people I don’t know, and who don’t know me. I’m tired of all the judgmental idiots making their comments about the way I live my life. Nobody has the right to judge me for anything, especially when nobody in this world is perfect. Until you are perfect, keep your thoughts and your opinions about me to yourself. I’m sure there has been a time or two in your life where things haven’t gone the way you’ve wanted them to, and I’m sure you’ve made mistakes, and I’m also sure you haven’t always handled the effects of those times in the best possible manner. Just because I’m not handling things in my life the way you think I should does not give you the right to “should” all over me.

I’m sick of the Bible beaters telling me I need to find religion and God and all of that and only then will I be truly happy. Okay, sure. Does that mean that you walk around completely and totally happy all the time regardless of what’s going on in your life? I don’t think so. I’m betting you have your bad days too. Get over yourself. You’re no better than I am and my not believing the same things you do doesn’t mean I’m any less of a person than you are. Maybe “finding God” gave you a better lease on life, and that’s fine, but I’m tired of hearing about it. I don’t discuss religion for the basic reason that my views are my views and your views are your views. Let’s keep it that way.

I’m going to live my life the way I feel is the best way for me and if you don’t like it, that’s fine. Feel free to express your opinion to me. As I tell my kids, you can say whatever you want to me as long as you say it politely and respectfully. However, if I don’t suddenly jump over to your way of thinking, don’t you dare tell me how wrong I am or what I need to be doing. Nothing gives you that right. I don’t tell you how to live your life and you certainly will not tell me how to live mine. Until you become me, you have absolutely no way of knowing what’s going on inside of my head or why I do what I do. I don’t claim to know you; you can’t claim to know me, especially when you’re not a part of my daily life.

So that’s how it is, like it or not. This is my life and I’ll live it however I see fit. As long as nobody is getting hurt in the process, I’m going to continue doing things the way I’ve been doing them. You don’t like it, don’t read what I write, turn your head, or just don’t be a part of my life. I won’t take offense but I will damn well stand up for what I believe. If you take offense to that, so be it; that’s your problem to deal with, not mine. Starting today I’m choosing to be me regardless of what you think or say. The people who really know me know what I stand for and why I do what I do. That’s all I need. As Dr. Seuss said, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”

Until next time…peace to all.